Did you know that mums have sex? It's kind of how we got to be mums. You'll have learned that at school, in biology, and sex ed, and I am sure that even if you didn't you are vaguely aware that babies come from shagging. It appears however that various journalists in the UK press are finding it difficult to put two and two together as the latest collective rant against Mumsnet is that users talk about sex. Which makes a change from calling Mumsnetter a nest of vipers, bullies, or variations on anything along those lines.
The Independent, the Telegraph and, of course, the Daily Mail, have all printed articles in the last week or so discussing the 'sordid underbelly' of the UK's biggest and best parenting site. Biggest? Not sure. Best, certainly.
Their journalists have trawled through years' worth of threads to find juicy little quotes to justify their shock, nay, anger, nay HORROR, that women, who have had children, also have sex. And talk about it.
I know that once our duty towards the continuation of our species has been fulfilled we are supposed to turn to baking and knitting and military-style planning of the Christmas season. And some of us do. In fact I have been planning our Christmas dinner this week. But there is still space in those silly little heads of ours for something else. Lots of things actually. And one of them might well be shagging.
The press much prefers stories about how women prefer chocolate or housework to sex. It reinforces the idea that we are breeders, unchallenging, simple creatures. There is the madonna/whore complex - we don't want to think of our parents, but particularly our mothers, as sexual creatures. But they are, they must be, otherwise, and I get this is a tough one to stomach, we wouldn't be here.
And now we have the internet on which we can discuss getting jiggy. Anonymously, to a certain extent. So plenty of mumsnetters choose to do so. And of all the articles I have read on the subject this week not one can give a compelling reason as to why we shouldn't. Men do. Younger women who aren't mothers do. It just seems to leave certain journalists with a bad taste in their mouth. Pained me not insert a filthy joke there.
But that distaste is, I'm afraid, the journalists' problem. Women aren't changing. It's just the medium by which they can chat is changing. Mumsnet won't suddenly cover up its ankles and stop talking about issues which are important to its users. I'm sure they recognise that even vipers want to have sex sometimes.